Jenna, I believe you are mistaken. I don't know about the part where you said the first child is named after the father regardless of gender (you may be right), but the part about children not being named after the maternal grandparents is wrong.jennabet wrote:Italians do not name children after their fathers or mothers. The first born child in a family, be it male or female is often named for the paternal grand-father. For example, the paternal grand-father of my cousin in Italy was Octavio. My cousin, a girl, is named Octavia.
The second born child, be it male or female, is often named for the paternal grand-mother. No children are named for maternal grand-parents.
I understand completely your grand-father being annoyed that you were named after your father. It's a British custom. Italian boys are never called Junior or Sonny. To differentiate between a grand-father and grand-son with the same name, the ending meaning "little" is used. For example: Grandfather: Giuseppi, Grand-son: Peppino
Regarding Italy not recognizing initials. I was given at birth in the USA a first name, middle name and last name. Through the years, I completely dropped my middle name but replaced it with an initial for my signature. After my Italian citizenship was recognized, I moved to Italy where I was forced to take back and sign forever my entire given name (first, middle, last) because Italy recognizes only the entire given name at birth and doesn't recognize initials at all.
The way I understand it is,
If the first child is a male, then it is named after the father's father. If it's a female, it's named after the father's mother. If the next child is a male it's named after the mother's father, if it's a female, it's named after the mother's mother. Once all the children's grandparents names are used up, they move on to the siblings of the parents.I could be wrong, but I believe they start with the father's siblings, and then move on to the mother's. Either that or they alternate.
There are some rare exceptions, for instance, the child may be named after a Saint, or something like that.
If I'm wrong, someone please correct me.